Sure mixed-sex "platonic" friendships exist theoretically, but in the real world, do they ever really work?
Before we delve into the answers, let's take a few moments to outline what exactly a platonic relationship is. According to the Webster Dictionary, it is "a close relationship between two persons in which sexual desire is nonexistent or has been suppressed or sublimated."
In other words, in the case of mixed sex platonic relationships, its having a best friend of the opposite sex who you hang out with without any sexual interest or involvement.
But what really happens when a girl and boy become friends? do they set the boundary lines from the start? What do they do about their attraction felt towards each other? do they pull back when they sense they get close to crossing the friend/relationship line? or do they feel that sex will not harm their friendship and indulge?
Men and women seek friends of the opposite sex for different reasons. for men, its the emotional aspect and gaining deeper understanding about the female sex from a womans point of view, which helps them cope in their relationships, and women because, truth be told, guys do tend to be less bitchy and emotional than their female friends counterparts, and can just be themselves more.
But my, doesnt the sex always eventually get in the way? we read often almost on a daily basis just how guys and gals start off being friends with the bestest intentions, then after some time, curiosity, vulnerbility, chemistry, a shift in the "just friends" agreement can lead to confused mixed feelings and how fast those that are "just friends" can progress and cross the line past the platonic stage, leading to sex and possibly regret.
I personally do NOT believe that deep down in the depths of our humanly instinctual realms that men and women can be just friends. This was just reinforced by my upbringing and my personal experiences and additionally what I have observed around me. Growing up as a 1st generation Australian, (whos parents still had their values back in 1950's Greece) my parents forbade me to have sleep overs with friends that had brothers. When I questioned why, the answer I got from my mother was you cant trust what guys will do. When I entered my marriage, my hubby was possessive and got touchy if I so much talked to my male neighbours, same goes for post-divorce boyfriends. An example when out one day, a friend I have known for years stopped to say hi and I didnt hear the end of it.
Then came my personal experiences. Guy friends that ive known for years, suddenly started hitting on me shortly after I became single. Some I rejected, others I indulged with and the friendship soon fizzled the same time as the sex did, reinforcing it further and I dare not talk about the few friends that were unfortuate enough to fall victim to their partners sleeping with their best friends, people they saw regulary and socialised with and are usually there for you. Sad.
To help me research this topic, I took it even further and started a twitter thread on this very subject. I wasnt expecting a great deal many responses, but ended up was totally overwhelmed with the different and varied answers I got.
This is the question I posed: Can men and women be just friends? have you crossed the line and happen to remain friends? or has sex ruined your friendship?
Most of the guys and a few females I tweeted with said they have had sex with friends and still remained friends. One said his friend was so hot, admits thinking about sex with her but hasnt made the move. He feels he has a good deal going, as he gets to 'hang' with her other friends that are also just as hot. I replied saying could this be a small element of show involved? like look you guys how hot my friend is? he agreed it could and further went on to say it could be a downside when your with someone. A female also said that she out of curiosity and chemistry, did sleep with her friend and they are now as close as ever. One guy said he slept with his friend once and never since and they are closer now even after 30 years past. One female even said shes known guys to dissolve the friendship once they find a partner prompting me to question a guys motives for becoming friends with women in the first place. I replied that guys might use friendship as a way "in", might have other feelings than friendship and eventually will want to attempt to sleep with his friend. I tend to agree with her. Some guys are cluee and know what women want, a guy that they can call a friend, when all along his motives can be quite different.
So there you have it. Some will argue yes, men and women can be friends and some say NO WAY. I am one of the latter. Even if the friendship does happen to survive the sex, will it ever be the same again? Assuming your wanting to keep the original agreement of having a platonic relationship, you risk emotions changing, knowing a side to your friend that you might even regret and the friendship part fizzling, with conversation afterwards going stale, and feeling uncomfortable doing just friend things together like hanging out.
You may as the reader, have other ideas. I would love to hear of your thoughts, please post below, even if we have already chatted about this. Thanks so much everyone for your input at twitter. Much appreciated!!
Wednesday, August 26, 2009
Tuesday, July 28, 2009
the importance of using the correct lube for anal sex
As much as we love anal sex, there are a few that are quite clueless that know what is the correct lube to use. This is a very important part of preparation for anal sex, for comfort and safety reasons. Firstly, the anal passage lacks its own natural lubrication, can be quite sensitive, tight and suseptible to minor cuts. Therefore, the correct lube is of paramount importance.
There are lots of lubes on the market. Water based, oil based, desensitising, natural, flavoured, silcone based, warming, cooling, tingling, enhancing, & moisturising. However, the safest and most practical lube for anal sex is plain water based ones. Water based lube is longer lasting and thicker textured which is suitable for anal sex. The use of oil based lube can weaken the rubber of the condom, so is best avoided and reserved for regular vaginal sex, masturbation or private indulgance with sex toys. Under no circumstances should you use a spermicide/HIV lubed condom, as this can be very irratative. Nonoxynol-9 the common ingredient found in these condoms was created for use as an industrial cleaner. It is abrasive and may cause cuts to the anal passage, thus increasing the chances of spreading disease.
If fear of pain is causing some apprehension of trying anal sex, you may find a water based desensitising lube more to your liking. This not only lubricates, but also has additional benefit of creating a slight numbing sensation that can help reduce the pain.
For a truly smooth almost pain free anal sex experience, the selection and use of the correct lube is important for both partners. Getting it right first go will enhance your experience and definately make it more pleasurable. For you guys thats good news, as a happy satisfied partner will want to repeat the performance. What fun that would be to have a willing sexually attuned partner ready for anal sex whenever you are.
Here are some of the lubes I highly recommend for comfortable anal sex:
desensitising water based lube
plain water based lube
There are lots of lubes on the market. Water based, oil based, desensitising, natural, flavoured, silcone based, warming, cooling, tingling, enhancing, & moisturising. However, the safest and most practical lube for anal sex is plain water based ones. Water based lube is longer lasting and thicker textured which is suitable for anal sex. The use of oil based lube can weaken the rubber of the condom, so is best avoided and reserved for regular vaginal sex, masturbation or private indulgance with sex toys. Under no circumstances should you use a spermicide/HIV lubed condom, as this can be very irratative. Nonoxynol-9 the common ingredient found in these condoms was created for use as an industrial cleaner. It is abrasive and may cause cuts to the anal passage, thus increasing the chances of spreading disease.
If fear of pain is causing some apprehension of trying anal sex, you may find a water based desensitising lube more to your liking. This not only lubricates, but also has additional benefit of creating a slight numbing sensation that can help reduce the pain.
For a truly smooth almost pain free anal sex experience, the selection and use of the correct lube is important for both partners. Getting it right first go will enhance your experience and definately make it more pleasurable. For you guys thats good news, as a happy satisfied partner will want to repeat the performance. What fun that would be to have a willing sexually attuned partner ready for anal sex whenever you are.
Here are some of the lubes I highly recommend for comfortable anal sex:
desensitising water based lube
plain water based lube
Saturday, July 25, 2009
my first year at twitter
TWITTER is no doubt the most fastest growing social network platform esp in the last 12 months. There really is no right or wrong way to 'tweet' in my opinion, despite all the so called "twitter etiquette how tos", people flock to twitter for very diverse and equally different reasons, for some its to build and establish their biz and for others purely for the interactivity.
I am one of those people. I have been using twitter now for aprox a year and have many times come close even to calling myself a "twitaholic". My usage of twitter has varied. I find I get into different "twittering moods". For example, I may use music or quotes to put forth my feelings, ramble, sneak in subtle innuendo, interact, post links to my articles or fun stuff and generally try to make others feel good about themselves.
All in all, twitter has taught me alot in human behaviours. I have learnt people can be shallow, kind, mean, caring, uncaring, rude, straightforward, quiet, selfish, happy, mushy, pushy, almost every kind you can find on twitter. This is what makes it quite a good mix I find, esp with my moods. Sometimes I cant stand all mushy goodness and all I want is someone to stand up and tell it like it is, expose the raw human emotions of this life, and other times all I want is pinky softness and backrubs. Twitter gives me this, so I just slot myself in and become one of the crowd. Singulary, we may think we dont contribute much, but as a collective, I believe we are a very powerful voice.
Twitter too is responsible for my decision to cull back my use of social networks. It wasnt that long ago that I became a member of every major SN out there, you name it I was there. But in the end it all got so time consuming, not to mention it eating away at your valuable productive time. So thesedays twitter serves as an all in one service for me. I can post links, photos, videos, pass on relevant info to my followers all thru twitter, without having to use seperate networks. It saves me alot of time and allows me to concentrate my efforts in one place rather than stress at the thought of updating stuff everywhere. Just the way I like it.
Twitter yes is here to stay, and I believe will keep expanding. I have enjoyed my first year at twitter, have met some wonderful people, learnt alot, and equally been taught alot. Freedom of speech rules and everyone big and small alike have their right to express themselves.
Followers come and go its a fact of life. You cant make everyone happy, but there is a market for everyone, whatever point your trying to make. Below is an interesting audio from the editor at large from the Oxford Dictionary on the findings of their closely studying twitter behaviours.
I am one of those people. I have been using twitter now for aprox a year and have many times come close even to calling myself a "twitaholic". My usage of twitter has varied. I find I get into different "twittering moods". For example, I may use music or quotes to put forth my feelings, ramble, sneak in subtle innuendo, interact, post links to my articles or fun stuff and generally try to make others feel good about themselves.
All in all, twitter has taught me alot in human behaviours. I have learnt people can be shallow, kind, mean, caring, uncaring, rude, straightforward, quiet, selfish, happy, mushy, pushy, almost every kind you can find on twitter. This is what makes it quite a good mix I find, esp with my moods. Sometimes I cant stand all mushy goodness and all I want is someone to stand up and tell it like it is, expose the raw human emotions of this life, and other times all I want is pinky softness and backrubs. Twitter gives me this, so I just slot myself in and become one of the crowd. Singulary, we may think we dont contribute much, but as a collective, I believe we are a very powerful voice.
Twitter too is responsible for my decision to cull back my use of social networks. It wasnt that long ago that I became a member of every major SN out there, you name it I was there. But in the end it all got so time consuming, not to mention it eating away at your valuable productive time. So thesedays twitter serves as an all in one service for me. I can post links, photos, videos, pass on relevant info to my followers all thru twitter, without having to use seperate networks. It saves me alot of time and allows me to concentrate my efforts in one place rather than stress at the thought of updating stuff everywhere. Just the way I like it.
Twitter yes is here to stay, and I believe will keep expanding. I have enjoyed my first year at twitter, have met some wonderful people, learnt alot, and equally been taught alot. Freedom of speech rules and everyone big and small alike have their right to express themselves.
Followers come and go its a fact of life. You cant make everyone happy, but there is a market for everyone, whatever point your trying to make. Below is an interesting audio from the editor at large from the Oxford Dictionary on the findings of their closely studying twitter behaviours.
Thursday, July 16, 2009
A sensual massage in the bathtub
One of the ways a woman gives herself a relaxing treat is by soaking in a long, hot bath so you can take this opportunity to really giver her a treat by preparing a bath for her. Of course, with other ‘extra treats’ as only you can provide.
How to Prepare a ‘Proper’ Bath for Her
No guys, a bath is not just filling the tub with hot water and pouring some bubble bath solution in it. If you’re going to do this, do it good and create the right ambiance for her.
First, close the windows and blinds and submerge the whole bathroom in darkness. Next, light some candles. They can be scented or not depending on what you use for the… scented oil you want to place on the burner or oil diffuser.
So for example, if you’re using vanilla oil on the oil diffuser, don’t use strawberry-scented candles as the heady, super sweet smells will most likely give you both a headache. Aim for one scent or like what’s mentioned above, use non-scented candles if you’re going to burn scented oils.
Also, don’t scrimp on the candles ok? The more, the merrier!
Next, put on some soothing music and make sure it’s not too loud or too soft. To test this, turn the music on and go into the bathroom and close the door a bit. Check if the music level is just right.
Next, make sure everything you need is within reach. It’s not good if you break the sexual massage all the time by running out of the bathroom! Plus, it’s not good for the overall warm temperature in the bathroom. Just put everything you need on a tray and set this on the toilet or on a small chair.
Don’t forget a few edible treats. A glass of wine or champagne and a platter of crackers and cheese are sexy and will make you both last long during the sexual massage.
To learn more about the right techniques to satisfy her in bed, go to techniques to satisfy her in bed
Sexual Massage Moves in the Bath
For starters, let her soak in the bath for about 5 to 10 minutes just to loosen her tight muscles and wracked nerves. Don’t join her in the bath just yet.
Start sexually massaging her while you’re still outside the tub. Sit on the edge or pull up a chair and use a wooden massage roller and move this along her body.
You can also position yourself at the top edge of the tub so you can massage her head. Slip your hands under her shoulders and then draw them up and out. A variation of this step is to pull your hands along the underside of the head, with your fingers against the back of the neck.
Learn a lot more positions in my free report! To get it, go to:female orgasm
Feel free to shampoo her hair too. The pressure of your hands on her scalp in combination with the soft suds of the shampoo will feel great. Besides, this is the beauty of a sexual massage in the bathroom, no cares for the all the water and soap that might spill on the floor.
Now, without breaking your massage strokes, climb into the bathtub and join her. Sit behind her with her back to yours (sort of like spoon to spoon). Start massaging her shoulders and work your way to her lower back. And now comes the best part… massaging her front.
Start by reaching over and cupping her breasts (gently!). You can use the soap suds or better yet, put more soap gel on your hands and start massaging her breasts as if you were trying to create a lot of lather!
Tease her by massaging her breasts, moving to her shoulders, going back to her breasts, going down and rubbing her stomach, back to hear breasts again. Each time, be a bit more daring and go lower and lower her front. For instance, just massage or ‘clean’ her belly button with your finger and then go back to her breasts before going down to her pubic area.
Here’s a naughty tip for you: unless your woman has gone Brazilian (i.e., has had all her pubic hair shaved off) you can try ‘shampooing’ her hair down there! Simply apply the same strokes you would as if you were washing her hair.
As a climax to this hot tub sexual massage, you may go ahead and insert your finger in her ‘sweet spot’. Remember, this should be part of the sexual massage and should not be seen as the sexual act itself so be gentle while you finger her. The objective is not to make her come but to simply ‘connect’ with that special place as well. Good luck!
Try my HOTTEST tips to satisfy her tonight and you will have her begging for more tomorrow…and the next day…and the next day. Go to:female oragsm revealed
about the author:
Gabrielle Moore is an expert on female intimacy.. teaching men and women the true art of seduction.. mindblowing sexual techniques and new and exciting ways to please your lover
How to Prepare a ‘Proper’ Bath for Her
No guys, a bath is not just filling the tub with hot water and pouring some bubble bath solution in it. If you’re going to do this, do it good and create the right ambiance for her.
First, close the windows and blinds and submerge the whole bathroom in darkness. Next, light some candles. They can be scented or not depending on what you use for the… scented oil you want to place on the burner or oil diffuser.
So for example, if you’re using vanilla oil on the oil diffuser, don’t use strawberry-scented candles as the heady, super sweet smells will most likely give you both a headache. Aim for one scent or like what’s mentioned above, use non-scented candles if you’re going to burn scented oils.
Also, don’t scrimp on the candles ok? The more, the merrier!
Next, put on some soothing music and make sure it’s not too loud or too soft. To test this, turn the music on and go into the bathroom and close the door a bit. Check if the music level is just right.
Next, make sure everything you need is within reach. It’s not good if you break the sexual massage all the time by running out of the bathroom! Plus, it’s not good for the overall warm temperature in the bathroom. Just put everything you need on a tray and set this on the toilet or on a small chair.
Don’t forget a few edible treats. A glass of wine or champagne and a platter of crackers and cheese are sexy and will make you both last long during the sexual massage.
To learn more about the right techniques to satisfy her in bed, go to techniques to satisfy her in bed
Sexual Massage Moves in the Bath
For starters, let her soak in the bath for about 5 to 10 minutes just to loosen her tight muscles and wracked nerves. Don’t join her in the bath just yet.
Start sexually massaging her while you’re still outside the tub. Sit on the edge or pull up a chair and use a wooden massage roller and move this along her body.
You can also position yourself at the top edge of the tub so you can massage her head. Slip your hands under her shoulders and then draw them up and out. A variation of this step is to pull your hands along the underside of the head, with your fingers against the back of the neck.
Learn a lot more positions in my free report! To get it, go to:female orgasm
Feel free to shampoo her hair too. The pressure of your hands on her scalp in combination with the soft suds of the shampoo will feel great. Besides, this is the beauty of a sexual massage in the bathroom, no cares for the all the water and soap that might spill on the floor.
Now, without breaking your massage strokes, climb into the bathtub and join her. Sit behind her with her back to yours (sort of like spoon to spoon). Start massaging her shoulders and work your way to her lower back. And now comes the best part… massaging her front.
Start by reaching over and cupping her breasts (gently!). You can use the soap suds or better yet, put more soap gel on your hands and start massaging her breasts as if you were trying to create a lot of lather!
Tease her by massaging her breasts, moving to her shoulders, going back to her breasts, going down and rubbing her stomach, back to hear breasts again. Each time, be a bit more daring and go lower and lower her front. For instance, just massage or ‘clean’ her belly button with your finger and then go back to her breasts before going down to her pubic area.
Here’s a naughty tip for you: unless your woman has gone Brazilian (i.e., has had all her pubic hair shaved off) you can try ‘shampooing’ her hair down there! Simply apply the same strokes you would as if you were washing her hair.
As a climax to this hot tub sexual massage, you may go ahead and insert your finger in her ‘sweet spot’. Remember, this should be part of the sexual massage and should not be seen as the sexual act itself so be gentle while you finger her. The objective is not to make her come but to simply ‘connect’ with that special place as well. Good luck!
Try my HOTTEST tips to satisfy her tonight and you will have her begging for more tomorrow…and the next day…and the next day. Go to:female oragsm revealed
about the author:
Gabrielle Moore is an expert on female intimacy.. teaching men and women the true art of seduction.. mindblowing sexual techniques and new and exciting ways to please your lover
Wednesday, July 8, 2009
have you ever had anal sex?
anal the taboo forbidden desire... not all of us love it or have had it.. but the majority do think about it and quite a few have engaged in it.. whether its with a regular partner.. gay/bi/straight.. with total strangers.. sex workers.. masturbation.. anal does cross our minds and most of us love it and get turned on by it.. xxtreme anal and double penetration anal we see alot of in movies.. and it looks ohh so hot and tempting.. but how many of you have actually had anal?.. and how often and in what way?.. take the time to fill in this poll so we may all find out just what you freaks are into and what turns you on about anal.. do u use protection?.. lube?.. have you experienced ass to mouth?.. oral in the anal area? .. anal with a stranger?.. gay/bi anal?.. have you used anal toys?.. do u enjoy anal xxtreme?.. have you ever been an ass slave?.. do you worship butt?.. are you concerned about any mess?..have you ever been fisted anally?.. does anal hurt?.. do you prefer anal to regular sex?.. i could go on and on about anal..
be honest and answer as many that apply.. all info is anon so let have sum fun and find out what turns us on.. and lets share the knowledge..
its pretty straight forward.. just select your answers.. and cast your votes!!
be honest and answer as many that apply.. all info is anon so let have sum fun and find out what turns us on.. and lets share the knowledge..
its pretty straight forward.. just select your answers.. and cast your votes!!
Monday, June 29, 2009
men love to be fingered in the ass
It's not just girls who love the odd finger or two slipped in our ass during foreplay or sex. And it's not just girls who can be fucked with a few fingers and a lover's tongue. Guys get off on it just as much, as you'll find out......
'I don't remember how we got there, but it hardly took any time at all. I hurriedly showed her around my flat, which she surveyed with a polite lack of interest until we reached the bedroom........
We both stared at my unmade bed. For minutes. 'You can get into bed without any help, right?' she whispered eventually, as if not wanting to disturb the charged atmosphere our mutual heavy breathing had cast in the small room.
'Sure.'
'Well go on then.' She said.
Within moments we were in the bed, both naked and her mouth was clamped on mine. She was rough, driving her way inside and sucking brutally on my lower lip. Her skin against mine felt so good. It was all I could do not to come just from the sound of her rapid heart-beat and the feel of her heat.
She moved from my mouth, nipping her way across my cheek until she reached my ear. 'I want to fuck you with my mouth,' she hissed.
I laughed. 'Don't you mean you want me to fuck you with my mouth?'
'No.' She rolled me onto my stomach with an impassioned sigh. Once I was positioned the way she wanted, she straddled my legs and bent down to flicker her tongue across my exposed buttocks. I flinched, uneasy, not sure if this was something I wanted but somehow I couldn't find the words to tell her to stop. So I quivered there beneath her as she let her tongue dart everywhere. Absolutely everywhere.
I gasped when she nudged at my little hidden hole, at the same time splaying me with one hand so that I was open and wanton for her. And then I found myself moaning as she teasingly let her tongue lap over that hot little mouth, again and again, until it was so hungry that I was thrusting my hips up to meet her every caress. Aching. Aching for something. Anything. More.
Responding to my desperate thrusting, she pushed the very tip of my tongue gently inside me. I was so needy and desperate for her by that point that I bucked like an animal, half begging and half sobbing, my face buried in the pillows while my desperate erection ground against the mattress.
Thankfully my frustration didn't last long. One of her hands snaked underneath me, forming a lubricated fist around my cock. I thrust into the warm soft well gratefully. Seconds later her tongue, which was starting to feel hopelessly small inside me, was replaced by a finger, then two, and the most amazing sensation as she stroked her way inside me with her other hand, fucking me decisively. I'd never felt anything like it.
And in moments, with her hands manipulating me from every direction, I was spasming for her soaking the sheets beneath me, half screaming, half blacking out.'
She held me for a long while after that, brushing my hair away from my face, waiting until I had recovered. Eventually I found I could speak again. 'If that was a pity fuck,' I breathed, 'then I think I do need your pity.'
'She propped herself up on her elbow and looked down at me. 'It's only a pity if we don't do that again,' she said, emphasizing her point with a brief kiss before clambering from the bed and walking naked into the kitchen of my tiny flat.
***** taken from "Mathilde Madden's Wheels On Fire, published in Wicked Words 10: The Best Of Wicked Words (Black Lace)"
'I don't remember how we got there, but it hardly took any time at all. I hurriedly showed her around my flat, which she surveyed with a polite lack of interest until we reached the bedroom........
We both stared at my unmade bed. For minutes. 'You can get into bed without any help, right?' she whispered eventually, as if not wanting to disturb the charged atmosphere our mutual heavy breathing had cast in the small room.
'Sure.'
'Well go on then.' She said.
Within moments we were in the bed, both naked and her mouth was clamped on mine. She was rough, driving her way inside and sucking brutally on my lower lip. Her skin against mine felt so good. It was all I could do not to come just from the sound of her rapid heart-beat and the feel of her heat.
She moved from my mouth, nipping her way across my cheek until she reached my ear. 'I want to fuck you with my mouth,' she hissed.
I laughed. 'Don't you mean you want me to fuck you with my mouth?'
'No.' She rolled me onto my stomach with an impassioned sigh. Once I was positioned the way she wanted, she straddled my legs and bent down to flicker her tongue across my exposed buttocks. I flinched, uneasy, not sure if this was something I wanted but somehow I couldn't find the words to tell her to stop. So I quivered there beneath her as she let her tongue dart everywhere. Absolutely everywhere.
I gasped when she nudged at my little hidden hole, at the same time splaying me with one hand so that I was open and wanton for her. And then I found myself moaning as she teasingly let her tongue lap over that hot little mouth, again and again, until it was so hungry that I was thrusting my hips up to meet her every caress. Aching. Aching for something. Anything. More.
Responding to my desperate thrusting, she pushed the very tip of my tongue gently inside me. I was so needy and desperate for her by that point that I bucked like an animal, half begging and half sobbing, my face buried in the pillows while my desperate erection ground against the mattress.
Thankfully my frustration didn't last long. One of her hands snaked underneath me, forming a lubricated fist around my cock. I thrust into the warm soft well gratefully. Seconds later her tongue, which was starting to feel hopelessly small inside me, was replaced by a finger, then two, and the most amazing sensation as she stroked her way inside me with her other hand, fucking me decisively. I'd never felt anything like it.
And in moments, with her hands manipulating me from every direction, I was spasming for her soaking the sheets beneath me, half screaming, half blacking out.'
She held me for a long while after that, brushing my hair away from my face, waiting until I had recovered. Eventually I found I could speak again. 'If that was a pity fuck,' I breathed, 'then I think I do need your pity.'
'She propped herself up on her elbow and looked down at me. 'It's only a pity if we don't do that again,' she said, emphasizing her point with a brief kiss before clambering from the bed and walking naked into the kitchen of my tiny flat.
***** taken from "Mathilde Madden's Wheels On Fire, published in Wicked Words 10: The Best Of Wicked Words (Black Lace)"
Sunday, June 28, 2009
where has the love gone?
one thing that i noticed when coming home from the train station tonight is the lack of togetherness couples have....have anyone noticed this??.....theyre out walking their dogs....with such long faces...no chatter amongst themselves....no holding hands....no laughter....no togetherness as a couple....no love....common...whats up ppl...???...why are you all like that???...
in this world we take so many things for granted dont we??...why cant we show some love for one another???..is it too hard too???...would we be seen as weak if we do show love???...why cant we laugh together or even have a conversation????...is it too hard???...what example are we showing our kids???....we need to make a stronger effort to show & display our feelings for one another....
when our partner goes away or dies why is it that we only then remember that we didnt do enough together & that we wish we could have done more??...why???...we must learn to appreciate our partners & learn to live in the now....cherish every God given moment together....learn to fully experience everything as a couple....because you dont know whats around the corner do you???...what if you both had a massive fight then one leaves for the day to go to work...still having a long face & not even bothering to even say see you later tonight.... have a nice day and a quick kiss....then the partner is killed during a accident on the way to work....how would you feel knowing he or she left this world with both of you not speaking to each other& showing your love for one another???....
live each day as if its your last...do not take advantage of anything.....as you never know whats around the corner for any of us...phone or txt your darling and tell them how much you love them right now...pick up the phone & dial...its not such a big deal is it??...you'll find them pleasantly surprized with your sudden call...& you can be guaranteed lots of loving attention when they get home....all simple things one can do for the sake of keeping love alive....make an effort to dress nice & keep up grooming habits...
do not make the mistake of thinking well ive got them now theyre mine i dont need to make an effort anymore....how wrong you are....no it doesnt work like that....keep spontaniety alive by doing outrageous things on the fly...plan a picnic....or a night of intense love-making....making an effort to be your sexiest will open new desires within yourselves.....keep the romance alive....go out to a romantic dinner or a walk along the beach hand in hand....dont be afraid to show your affections...do it often...its not a sign of weakness but a sign of great strength...open the lines of communication.....to bring back that spark.... love has its rewards....
sometimes i really envy couples that have been together for a long time....obviously they have the winning formula for keeping love alive....that loving spark aglow....what a brilliant feeling that is....dont you think...???....yes ppl we all do need to make a conscious effort to keep love alive within our dull relationships...same goes for friendships...as they can go stale too....try to do differnt things....experiment with what you both like...& introduce it in slowly.....keep friendships alive.....after all dont we turn to our friends in times of need???...what if they werent there in those times of need because we failed to do things needed to keep that friendship????....you'll be kicking yourself wouldnt you???....
sometimes we need to swallow our pride....for the sake of our relationships....do not feel that making an effort will make you seem the fool.....love knows no such feelings....love has no boundarys....follow your heart & not your silly heads....just do whatever your heart tell you too.....and you cant go wrong....the love in our heart will lead the way....the love in our heart will prevail....it always does...it rises above all....& conquers all....
i do hope i have given you all something to chew on with the above on love & relationships....if we all made a conscious effort the world would be such a better place to live in for all...
until next time....sending you all my love & good wishes...
Miz Helena XX
in this world we take so many things for granted dont we??...why cant we show some love for one another???..is it too hard too???...would we be seen as weak if we do show love???...why cant we laugh together or even have a conversation????...is it too hard???...what example are we showing our kids???....we need to make a stronger effort to show & display our feelings for one another....
when our partner goes away or dies why is it that we only then remember that we didnt do enough together & that we wish we could have done more??...why???...we must learn to appreciate our partners & learn to live in the now....cherish every God given moment together....learn to fully experience everything as a couple....because you dont know whats around the corner do you???...what if you both had a massive fight then one leaves for the day to go to work...still having a long face & not even bothering to even say see you later tonight.... have a nice day and a quick kiss....then the partner is killed during a accident on the way to work....how would you feel knowing he or she left this world with both of you not speaking to each other& showing your love for one another???....
live each day as if its your last...do not take advantage of anything.....as you never know whats around the corner for any of us...phone or txt your darling and tell them how much you love them right now...pick up the phone & dial...its not such a big deal is it??...you'll find them pleasantly surprized with your sudden call...& you can be guaranteed lots of loving attention when they get home....all simple things one can do for the sake of keeping love alive....make an effort to dress nice & keep up grooming habits...
do not make the mistake of thinking well ive got them now theyre mine i dont need to make an effort anymore....how wrong you are....no it doesnt work like that....keep spontaniety alive by doing outrageous things on the fly...plan a picnic....or a night of intense love-making....making an effort to be your sexiest will open new desires within yourselves.....keep the romance alive....go out to a romantic dinner or a walk along the beach hand in hand....dont be afraid to show your affections...do it often...its not a sign of weakness but a sign of great strength...open the lines of communication.....to bring back that spark.... love has its rewards....
sometimes i really envy couples that have been together for a long time....obviously they have the winning formula for keeping love alive....that loving spark aglow....what a brilliant feeling that is....dont you think...???....yes ppl we all do need to make a conscious effort to keep love alive within our dull relationships...same goes for friendships...as they can go stale too....try to do differnt things....experiment with what you both like...& introduce it in slowly.....keep friendships alive.....after all dont we turn to our friends in times of need???...what if they werent there in those times of need because we failed to do things needed to keep that friendship????....you'll be kicking yourself wouldnt you???....
sometimes we need to swallow our pride....for the sake of our relationships....do not feel that making an effort will make you seem the fool.....love knows no such feelings....love has no boundarys....follow your heart & not your silly heads....just do whatever your heart tell you too.....and you cant go wrong....the love in our heart will lead the way....the love in our heart will prevail....it always does...it rises above all....& conquers all....
i do hope i have given you all something to chew on with the above on love & relationships....if we all made a conscious effort the world would be such a better place to live in for all...
until next time....sending you all my love & good wishes...
Miz Helena XX
Saturday, June 27, 2009
dating: stud or dud?
Hello all you super freaks ,
hope everything is super kool and groovy in your world...hey gather round and get ya freak on...i have a very popular topic i wanna discuss...lol... mmm remember that kool G-funk track Regulator?? (by Nate Dog and Warren G) guaranteed to get you in the mood....mmmm...kool smooth sexy track...its in my ears right now just had to mention it ...lol...ok back now
ok lets talk about that HOTT date everyone...ok girls/guys...weve all been there before.. havent we??...you know...spending all day Saturday preparing ourselves for that special date on Saturday nite....waxing, make up, clothes, hair, shoes, matching bags, zit free face, everything has to be perfect doesnt it?? and if its not then you call it off...familiar right??...yes well ive been there too my freaks...
met a really kool guy online early last year in Syd that i started seeing (made sure i checked him out first off course...making sure he was who he said he was...he got me to check work...home...friends...clubs memberships...and everything was as he said it was..so felt ok )..he is a real gentleman ...
we went out on sum really fab funn dates...usually to dinner first followed by dancin till the small wee early hours then going back to his place and fucking each others brains out...i would say this guy was a 10 on the scale of 0-10...with his dating ettiquette...he knows and understands women...perfect score as far as i was concerned...
let me explain why i think he was the perfect date...
1) he was always on time...ALWAYS...i hate it when a guy keeps me waiting...i get nervous and fidgety...i prefer to keep him waiting..sumhow a guy can always accepts there is sum waiting around at times...ok
2) he always holds my hand when we are out walking together...lets everyone around know that we are a item...not neccessarily a couple...but still an item..i like that when a guy can do that freely scores points with me....
3) is always attentive..i would have his full attention at dinner...chatting holding hands...laughing together..and also very complimentary...this guy knew exactly what women are all about and he knew what they liked and wanted...he notices when a woman dresses and makes an effort to look nice and pays her a compliment..scores points again with me...(taking notes guys??..lol)...you definately will learn by this...so its a good thing to do so....
4) He introduces me to all his friends..and my title is not a mere "hey mate this is a friend of mine"...oh no....he introduces you as his date..mmm..such a smoothy...charming...again scoring points...sum guys are gutless and get scared shitless when their friends are around and dont know how to address their dates so they dont bother giving her a title..just saying "this is Julie" for example...
5) He keeps asking if im ok...did i wanna go or stay or go sumwhere else...keeps checking with me in other words...just to see if i was ok or was bored...or wanted to do sumthing else instead...(points accumulating here fast...hehehe...lol...)...by this time, if he continues like this.. i could very easily fall in love hard...fall very hard for him and give up freaking... Surprised ...mwa..mwa.....the sweetee... Razz
6) always pulls you close when out clubbin...so close that you can feel the warmth of his body next to yours...smell his cologne...and feel his breath on you...very sensual...very passionate...mmm...again scores high...(should also have a love-o-meter going here too...to measure the love vibes... Razz ..lol)
7) always thoughtful...always asking me what i want to do...not just deciding on what he wants...so we make decisions together...scoring plenty again....
Cool finally taking me to his place and unleashing each others passions...such a super ending to a great night...making sure he does everything to please...making me cum so hard first then at least 3 more times before he even considers his hard on...wow such a hottie...
ok well ive rambled on a bit here now...but i wanted to make it clear just what i think a great date is..perhaps i set too high standards??? do you think i do??..i dont think so...i just thrive on all of his passion for life and his kool sexiness and attentiveness...makes me heady...and the room spins around...get so xxcited...definately stirs sumthing inside...
I experienced that feeling again recently (or should i say what i thought was that feeling again but turned out quickly to be false..its really freaky how that love emotion can fool you like that making you think its real...isnt it????....just follow your gut feeling...)...anyone here has experienced this...??
ok just as theres the studs...theres the dud....xx
ohhh noooo the desperate date from HELL...heheeeee...i think you know the kind right?...tries too hard...desperate...inconsiderate...very quiet until he gets plastered to mask his insecurities...and gathers sum dutch courage....tries to be sumthing their not....treats you as a possession..and becomes a leach...sulking even if you talk to anyone else...hanging off you practically...oh my....whats up guys??..lighten up...get a life....
let me tell you all of my date from HELL ...sumtimes i even question myself the things i get myself into....lol...
a client from work became close over time...giving me his address and number and constantly asking me out...everytime he use to see me he would always say i love you..and be very passionate around me...nothing wrong with being passionate..esp if your European like he was....
anyways,.. one night i agreed to go..but was a little apprehensive i remember ..but told myself he was a regular loyal client.. so after
meeting him in the local RSL club....the night began...OMG...what a disaster it ended up being..almost from the start...he started becoming a real royal prick...constantly disagreeing and arguing with me...over minor shit too like what i should drink...what i should be wearing...not to walk around and talk to anyone...putting me down....the drunker he got the worst he became..
his insecurities began to surface..and rear their ugly heads...i couldnt wait to get out of there...he must of sensed this and he started to become clingy...always a date fizzler for me..feeling suffocated and in need of sum breathing space... his mood changed dramatically.. becoming almost nasty.. sarcastic...cocky...sharp tongued..i had enough..i excused myself and went to get a cab home..he followed me to the rank...and started apologising... i wasnt falling for it though.. once a prick always a prick...and so arrogant.. NO THANKS..
i finally got home and ran a long bath and lying back ..went back over the events of the evening... i almost felt sorry for him.. i feel from what he told me he doesnt have much success with women and has become bitter over this...thats why he has to pay for it.. still no excuses to become like that...get on with things.. life a full life..be positive...make the most of what youve got... once your life is in order and your happy..the rest will follow...love ..happiness .. soulmate even...
whatever you do guys...WARNING...YOU STAND OUT A MILE LONG if this is you..
so yes...this is my expriences with my date from HELL...not pleasant.. you may think im a shallow person when i tell you all this...but tell me honestly guys..lets reverse the situation here now...if your date was behaving like that..would you like it??... nah i didnt think so... so i dont feel im shallow at all...
i would love to hear of your dating disasters too...and of the hunnys that you may have dated as well.... yes i wanna hear everything you wanna say... damn that song is so kool...(still in my ears here..getting my groove on...)
ok guys so now you know a little about the correct dating etiquette....be respectful.. confident.. suave...kool..ooze sex appeal (comes with being confident and positive) mostly just be you...without any false courages...your date will sure like you even more....you even will seem sexier.. be edgy..project strength.. but also dont be afraid to show your vulnurable side .. it wont make you less of a man..
ok guys...what can you add to this??...feel free to post your comments. would like to hear any stories of your dates too... always interesting....
thanks so much for tuning in.. xx
hope everything is super kool and groovy in your world...hey gather round and get ya freak on...i have a very popular topic i wanna discuss...lol... mmm remember that kool G-funk track Regulator?? (by Nate Dog and Warren G) guaranteed to get you in the mood....mmmm...kool smooth sexy track...its in my ears right now just had to mention it ...lol...ok back now
ok lets talk about that HOTT date everyone...ok girls/guys...weve all been there before.. havent we??...you know...spending all day Saturday preparing ourselves for that special date on Saturday nite....waxing, make up, clothes, hair, shoes, matching bags, zit free face, everything has to be perfect doesnt it?? and if its not then you call it off...familiar right??...yes well ive been there too my freaks...
met a really kool guy online early last year in Syd that i started seeing (made sure i checked him out first off course...making sure he was who he said he was...he got me to check work...home...friends...clubs memberships...and everything was as he said it was..so felt ok )..he is a real gentleman ...
we went out on sum really fab funn dates...usually to dinner first followed by dancin till the small wee early hours then going back to his place and fucking each others brains out...i would say this guy was a 10 on the scale of 0-10...with his dating ettiquette...he knows and understands women...perfect score as far as i was concerned...
let me explain why i think he was the perfect date...
1) he was always on time...ALWAYS...i hate it when a guy keeps me waiting...i get nervous and fidgety...i prefer to keep him waiting..sumhow a guy can always accepts there is sum waiting around at times...ok
2) he always holds my hand when we are out walking together...lets everyone around know that we are a item...not neccessarily a couple...but still an item..i like that when a guy can do that freely scores points with me....
3) is always attentive..i would have his full attention at dinner...chatting holding hands...laughing together..and also very complimentary...this guy knew exactly what women are all about and he knew what they liked and wanted...he notices when a woman dresses and makes an effort to look nice and pays her a compliment..scores points again with me...(taking notes guys??..lol)...you definately will learn by this...so its a good thing to do so....
4) He introduces me to all his friends..and my title is not a mere "hey mate this is a friend of mine"...oh no....he introduces you as his date..mmm..such a smoothy...charming...again scoring points...sum guys are gutless and get scared shitless when their friends are around and dont know how to address their dates so they dont bother giving her a title..just saying "this is Julie" for example...
5) He keeps asking if im ok...did i wanna go or stay or go sumwhere else...keeps checking with me in other words...just to see if i was ok or was bored...or wanted to do sumthing else instead...(points accumulating here fast...hehehe...lol...)...by this time, if he continues like this.. i could very easily fall in love hard...fall very hard for him and give up freaking... Surprised ...mwa..mwa.....the sweetee... Razz
6) always pulls you close when out clubbin...so close that you can feel the warmth of his body next to yours...smell his cologne...and feel his breath on you...very sensual...very passionate...mmm...again scores high...(should also have a love-o-meter going here too...to measure the love vibes... Razz ..lol)
7) always thoughtful...always asking me what i want to do...not just deciding on what he wants...so we make decisions together...scoring plenty again....
Cool finally taking me to his place and unleashing each others passions...such a super ending to a great night...making sure he does everything to please...making me cum so hard first then at least 3 more times before he even considers his hard on...wow such a hottie...
ok well ive rambled on a bit here now...but i wanted to make it clear just what i think a great date is..perhaps i set too high standards??? do you think i do??..i dont think so...i just thrive on all of his passion for life and his kool sexiness and attentiveness...makes me heady...and the room spins around...get so xxcited...definately stirs sumthing inside...
I experienced that feeling again recently (or should i say what i thought was that feeling again but turned out quickly to be false..its really freaky how that love emotion can fool you like that making you think its real...isnt it????....just follow your gut feeling...)...anyone here has experienced this...??
ok just as theres the studs...theres the dud....xx
ohhh noooo the desperate date from HELL...heheeeee...i think you know the kind right?...tries too hard...desperate...inconsiderate...very quiet until he gets plastered to mask his insecurities...and gathers sum dutch courage....tries to be sumthing their not....treats you as a possession..and becomes a leach...sulking even if you talk to anyone else...hanging off you practically...oh my....whats up guys??..lighten up...get a life....
let me tell you all of my date from HELL ...sumtimes i even question myself the things i get myself into....lol...
a client from work became close over time...giving me his address and number and constantly asking me out...everytime he use to see me he would always say i love you..and be very passionate around me...nothing wrong with being passionate..esp if your European like he was....
anyways,.. one night i agreed to go..but was a little apprehensive i remember ..but told myself he was a regular loyal client.. so after
meeting him in the local RSL club....the night began...OMG...what a disaster it ended up being..almost from the start...he started becoming a real royal prick...constantly disagreeing and arguing with me...over minor shit too like what i should drink...what i should be wearing...not to walk around and talk to anyone...putting me down....the drunker he got the worst he became..
his insecurities began to surface..and rear their ugly heads...i couldnt wait to get out of there...he must of sensed this and he started to become clingy...always a date fizzler for me..feeling suffocated and in need of sum breathing space... his mood changed dramatically.. becoming almost nasty.. sarcastic...cocky...sharp tongued..i had enough..i excused myself and went to get a cab home..he followed me to the rank...and started apologising... i wasnt falling for it though.. once a prick always a prick...and so arrogant.. NO THANKS..
i finally got home and ran a long bath and lying back ..went back over the events of the evening... i almost felt sorry for him.. i feel from what he told me he doesnt have much success with women and has become bitter over this...thats why he has to pay for it.. still no excuses to become like that...get on with things.. life a full life..be positive...make the most of what youve got... once your life is in order and your happy..the rest will follow...love ..happiness .. soulmate even...
whatever you do guys...WARNING...YOU STAND OUT A MILE LONG if this is you..
so yes...this is my expriences with my date from HELL...not pleasant.. you may think im a shallow person when i tell you all this...but tell me honestly guys..lets reverse the situation here now...if your date was behaving like that..would you like it??... nah i didnt think so... so i dont feel im shallow at all...
i would love to hear of your dating disasters too...and of the hunnys that you may have dated as well.... yes i wanna hear everything you wanna say... damn that song is so kool...(still in my ears here..getting my groove on...)
ok guys so now you know a little about the correct dating etiquette....be respectful.. confident.. suave...kool..ooze sex appeal (comes with being confident and positive) mostly just be you...without any false courages...your date will sure like you even more....you even will seem sexier.. be edgy..project strength.. but also dont be afraid to show your vulnurable side .. it wont make you less of a man..
ok guys...what can you add to this??...feel free to post your comments. would like to hear any stories of your dates too... always interesting....
thanks so much for tuning in.. xx
Monday, June 22, 2009
adult friend finder
wow! Im back folks.. I have been slack here of late with posting.. and I do apologise.. I have a classic to share with you however. You may or may not know of the online adult dating site Adult Friend Finder? (Largest Adult Dating Site in the World!) Well, it was nice to be able to get back into my account there and do some updating. Last night was the first log in over a year! (I even had to request my password! lol) ive had my cheeky AFF badge on my site for a while but anyways, I did get in and my.. I found pages of friends requests, hotlistings, winks, flirts, etc.. The best part about it was the vid invites. OMG seriously, this guy had me spinning by the way he could suck on his OWN cock! another had the longest cock ive ever seen and he was stroking it good.. unbelievably artistic with the art of cock stroking.. I even got to watch a girl rubbing herself with a banana then eating it! and these are intro vids! LOL there is of course streaming cam (upgrade) and with soooo many members its hard to know where to start.. but search for members makes it a whole lot easier!
you can search for members near you, hottest, by ratings, etc, post pics, vids, blog, participate in the adult magazine, where people get together and ask some deep questions, and you have a chance to give your opinion, accumulate points by joining in which you can redeem for silver or gold membership. These are just off the top of my head, mind you, there are so many features to list, chat, live webcam (need upgrade), groups, contact members, there is so much going on.
my inbox was full of so many unread messages, all mostly from local guys, all wanting to meet up. Its hard to go thru 1 by 1 and read all. A few write fantasy senarios with the message, usually describing what they wanna do to you. Its a real fun place, where there is so much interactivity going on! I found my 2 intro vids as well.. which im posting below.. LOL it made me laugh actually.. you might find it amusing too.. these were made circa Nov 2007 when I first joined.. anyways, why not come join me at AFF? If your not already a member, why not sign up for free and take a leisurely browse? A leisurely browse usually turns into something longer, its hard not to, as there is so much to do and see. I had an amazing evening last night browsing watching kudo-ing and messaging!
'angel' at AFF
you can search for members near you, hottest, by ratings, etc, post pics, vids, blog, participate in the adult magazine, where people get together and ask some deep questions, and you have a chance to give your opinion, accumulate points by joining in which you can redeem for silver or gold membership. These are just off the top of my head, mind you, there are so many features to list, chat, live webcam (need upgrade), groups, contact members, there is so much going on.
my inbox was full of so many unread messages, all mostly from local guys, all wanting to meet up. Its hard to go thru 1 by 1 and read all. A few write fantasy senarios with the message, usually describing what they wanna do to you. Its a real fun place, where there is so much interactivity going on! I found my 2 intro vids as well.. which im posting below.. LOL it made me laugh actually.. you might find it amusing too.. these were made circa Nov 2007 when I first joined.. anyways, why not come join me at AFF? If your not already a member, why not sign up for free and take a leisurely browse? A leisurely browse usually turns into something longer, its hard not to, as there is so much to do and see. I had an amazing evening last night browsing watching kudo-ing and messaging!
'angel' at AFF
Saturday, May 30, 2009
foreplay tips for him
Foreplay Tips for Him
So, you want to take the initiative this time and want to surprise your girlfriend /wife / lover with your foreplay skills. But then again, you realize that foreplay hasn’t been your ‘thing’ lately and you’re not sure what to do…
Well, lucky you! I’ve compiled these hot foreplay tips you can use ASAP so that you can have her breathing hard and lusting for your touch tonight!
Hot Tips for Sexual Foreplay
Sometimes, foreplay can be a disaster if you don’t know what you’re doing. For instance, you may have seen movies where he ‘tweaks’ her nipples… HARD. Well guys, you know what? That HURTS and you’re not really arousing her that way. So to guide your naughty thoughts, take heed of my foreplay tips below!
Don’t forget her neck. Often, guys think of foreplay as ‘kissing’ and making love as ‘having sex’. Sorry guys, that’s way too simple for us girls. So during foreplay, don’t just kiss her thoroughly, pay attention too to other female body parts such as her neck, arms, legs, and even her feet. Alternate between kissing, licking and nibbling these areas and she’ll be putty in your hands in no time.
Mentally ‘sex her up’. It’s a fact. Guys go for visual stuff while women like to be mentally put ‘in the mood’. So if you’re planning for some hot sex tonight, start foreplay early during the day so she’s already in the mood by the time you reach for her at home.
For example, if you guys are standing on line for something, get close to her and whisper something REALLY DIRRRTY into her ear! Important: paint her a picture in her head. So don’t just say “I’m going to fuck you tonight”. Instead, say “You know babe, I’m horny now so when we get back home, I will lick your clit so good that…” I think you get my drift by now…
Learn how to master this and many other techniques. Go to: hot foreplay tips
Dry hump her. In its most generic sense, foreplay is all about ‘increasing the sexual tension’ so that you and your partner are uber-primed for the sexual act itself. Well, what’s more arousing than imitating intercourse movements (humping) than doing it with clothes on! Preferably, do this in a public place or in a club. Basically, do it where you cannot proceed to doing intercourse. This way, you guys will be h-h-hot for sex later!
Slow dance… while butt-naked. Ok, this time foreplay without clothes! You can just be half-dressed or completely naked for this one. Put on some slow and/or lusty music, dim the lights, light some candles, take some or all of your clothes off and start swaying to the music. Remember that the trick here is to dance close to her body so that she can feel your erection against her. Hot!
Go ‘under the table’. I just love sharing experiences from subscribers and here’s another one. One time, while Jill (subscriber name changed for privacy) and her husband were having dinner, they were getting a bit naughty and started to ‘play footsie’ under the table. This then proceeded to her fully extending her leg and with her foot, she started playing with his penis through his pants. What happened next shocked her…
Without warning, he went under the table, spread her legs, pulled down her shorts and tongued her! Jill swears the foreplay and the suddenness of his moves was the hottest sex and the best orgasm she ever had!
Try this one tonight and don’t worry if she’s wearing pants. Just rub your face against her mound and it will turn her so horny SHE will start to bring her pants down.
Read more about how to master these techniques at: foreplay techniques
Tease her till the very end. No, the fact that she has her clothes off does NOT mean it’s intercourse time. You can extend foreplay to the very end and bring her to delirious lust by using the head of your penis to tease her throbbing vagina. Just rub your the point of your manhood all over her vagina – especially her clit – and trust me, she’ll go wild with passion!
I hope you thoroughly enjoy these foreplay tips! Just remember to vary your ‘foreplay moves’. Otherwise, everything becomes routine again! So for example, tonight, tease her from head to toe with your kissing, licking and nibbling and then next time, just go directly to her clit and lick away. This way, you’re Mr. Surprise and foreplay and sex with you is the best experience she’ll ever have.
Enjoy!
To learn more HOT tips to satisfy your lover in bed tonight, go to: hot tips to satisfy your lover
about the author:
Gabrielle Moore is an expert on female intimacy.. teaching men and women the true art of seduction.. mindblowing sexual techniques and new and exciting ways to please your lover
The Female Orgasm Revealed
So, you want to take the initiative this time and want to surprise your girlfriend /wife / lover with your foreplay skills. But then again, you realize that foreplay hasn’t been your ‘thing’ lately and you’re not sure what to do…
Well, lucky you! I’ve compiled these hot foreplay tips you can use ASAP so that you can have her breathing hard and lusting for your touch tonight!
Hot Tips for Sexual Foreplay
Sometimes, foreplay can be a disaster if you don’t know what you’re doing. For instance, you may have seen movies where he ‘tweaks’ her nipples… HARD. Well guys, you know what? That HURTS and you’re not really arousing her that way. So to guide your naughty thoughts, take heed of my foreplay tips below!
Don’t forget her neck. Often, guys think of foreplay as ‘kissing’ and making love as ‘having sex’. Sorry guys, that’s way too simple for us girls. So during foreplay, don’t just kiss her thoroughly, pay attention too to other female body parts such as her neck, arms, legs, and even her feet. Alternate between kissing, licking and nibbling these areas and she’ll be putty in your hands in no time.
Mentally ‘sex her up’. It’s a fact. Guys go for visual stuff while women like to be mentally put ‘in the mood’. So if you’re planning for some hot sex tonight, start foreplay early during the day so she’s already in the mood by the time you reach for her at home.
For example, if you guys are standing on line for something, get close to her and whisper something REALLY DIRRRTY into her ear! Important: paint her a picture in her head. So don’t just say “I’m going to fuck you tonight”. Instead, say “You know babe, I’m horny now so when we get back home, I will lick your clit so good that…” I think you get my drift by now…
Learn how to master this and many other techniques. Go to: hot foreplay tips
Dry hump her. In its most generic sense, foreplay is all about ‘increasing the sexual tension’ so that you and your partner are uber-primed for the sexual act itself. Well, what’s more arousing than imitating intercourse movements (humping) than doing it with clothes on! Preferably, do this in a public place or in a club. Basically, do it where you cannot proceed to doing intercourse. This way, you guys will be h-h-hot for sex later!
Slow dance… while butt-naked. Ok, this time foreplay without clothes! You can just be half-dressed or completely naked for this one. Put on some slow and/or lusty music, dim the lights, light some candles, take some or all of your clothes off and start swaying to the music. Remember that the trick here is to dance close to her body so that she can feel your erection against her. Hot!
Go ‘under the table’. I just love sharing experiences from subscribers and here’s another one. One time, while Jill (subscriber name changed for privacy) and her husband were having dinner, they were getting a bit naughty and started to ‘play footsie’ under the table. This then proceeded to her fully extending her leg and with her foot, she started playing with his penis through his pants. What happened next shocked her…
Without warning, he went under the table, spread her legs, pulled down her shorts and tongued her! Jill swears the foreplay and the suddenness of his moves was the hottest sex and the best orgasm she ever had!
Try this one tonight and don’t worry if she’s wearing pants. Just rub your face against her mound and it will turn her so horny SHE will start to bring her pants down.
Read more about how to master these techniques at: foreplay techniques
Tease her till the very end. No, the fact that she has her clothes off does NOT mean it’s intercourse time. You can extend foreplay to the very end and bring her to delirious lust by using the head of your penis to tease her throbbing vagina. Just rub your the point of your manhood all over her vagina – especially her clit – and trust me, she’ll go wild with passion!
I hope you thoroughly enjoy these foreplay tips! Just remember to vary your ‘foreplay moves’. Otherwise, everything becomes routine again! So for example, tonight, tease her from head to toe with your kissing, licking and nibbling and then next time, just go directly to her clit and lick away. This way, you’re Mr. Surprise and foreplay and sex with you is the best experience she’ll ever have.
Enjoy!
To learn more HOT tips to satisfy your lover in bed tonight, go to: hot tips to satisfy your lover
about the author:
Gabrielle Moore is an expert on female intimacy.. teaching men and women the true art of seduction.. mindblowing sexual techniques and new and exciting ways to please your lover
The Female Orgasm Revealed
Friday, May 8, 2009
not alone
Under the stars
We run in the wind
Taking every single moment that we can
Look into your eyes
We run from the lights
Believe it but you can’t know how I feel
I can’t believe that you still think we’re friends
Like someone I just met, you can’t pretend
That you don’t feel the magic, tell your mind
And I am on a mission to show you how
These are moments you can’t live without
Knowing that you can’t ever say goodbye
And you feel
Like you’re all alone
Can’t you recover your heart and let it go?
And you see
Just how good we’d be
Just close your eyes now and let your body feel
And now you feel
Like you’re all alone
My love will surround you
In ways that you don’t know
And now you feel
Like it could be real
My love will surround you
Close your eyes and see
And out of this daze
Where memories were made
And tell you how the life you want to leave
Lightning will strike
In a way that you like
And fate will take its hand just come to me
I can’t believe you’re coming back around
For a moment you were there and you hit the ground
It’s almost like you started to believe
You say enough for me to know you tried
But everyting you’re feeling is stuck inside
Open up your heart and set us free
And now you feel
Like you’re all alone
Telling everybody
Nothing’s going on
And then you stood
Feeling so alone
It’s like everybody knows that I’m alone
I feel it in my skin
You know where I have been
There’s no need to cover
It’s time that you …
And then you stop…stop…stop…
Cause you feel
(Did you see how good we’d be)
So alone
(When you open up to me)
Not alone
(Did you see how good we’d be)
Not alone
(When you open up to me)
Not alone
Did you see how good we’d be, when you open up to me
- Gianluca Motta Ft Molly NOT ALONE
We run in the wind
Taking every single moment that we can
Look into your eyes
We run from the lights
Believe it but you can’t know how I feel
I can’t believe that you still think we’re friends
Like someone I just met, you can’t pretend
That you don’t feel the magic, tell your mind
And I am on a mission to show you how
These are moments you can’t live without
Knowing that you can’t ever say goodbye
And you feel
Like you’re all alone
Can’t you recover your heart and let it go?
And you see
Just how good we’d be
Just close your eyes now and let your body feel
And now you feel
Like you’re all alone
My love will surround you
In ways that you don’t know
And now you feel
Like it could be real
My love will surround you
Close your eyes and see
And out of this daze
Where memories were made
And tell you how the life you want to leave
Lightning will strike
In a way that you like
And fate will take its hand just come to me
I can’t believe you’re coming back around
For a moment you were there and you hit the ground
It’s almost like you started to believe
You say enough for me to know you tried
But everyting you’re feeling is stuck inside
Open up your heart and set us free
And now you feel
Like you’re all alone
Telling everybody
Nothing’s going on
And then you stood
Feeling so alone
It’s like everybody knows that I’m alone
I feel it in my skin
You know where I have been
There’s no need to cover
It’s time that you …
And then you stop…stop…stop…
Cause you feel
(Did you see how good we’d be)
So alone
(When you open up to me)
Not alone
(Did you see how good we’d be)
Not alone
(When you open up to me)
Not alone
Did you see how good we’d be, when you open up to me
- Gianluca Motta Ft Molly NOT ALONE
Tuesday, May 5, 2009
what guys really think
Watch this to find out the brutal truth about what guys are really thinking.. LOL
Thursday, April 30, 2009
are you obsessed with finding a partner?
Just as "more of us are on diets than ever before but obesity rates are rising, something about dating is making us single.” (Times)
The rate of people choosing singledom has risen and doubled over the past 20 years or so. This, not so surprizingly, has been coupled by the increasingly popular use of speed dating, online dating and dating communities.
The primary goal of dating is to find and meet a suitable partner, however, as much as we know this, there are several pitfalls that make up "the problem of dating ettiquette" are you too focused on the "idea" of finding your perfect mate?
1) Dating
Dating is often seen as high pressured. We are constantly sizing up the physical, personality flaws, compatibility, habits, responses, over what really is important, like friendship and getting to know them. We think, because we do it, other daters will be making their judgements too about us. We cant relax enough, always feeling we have to be competitive, losing touch if we stop.
2) Problems with focusing on finding a partner
Finding a suitable partner is something we shouldnt be seeking to find, rather, to be open to and allow it to occur. It is something we shouldnt be desiring to acquire. Alasdair Macintyre calls it “networks of giving and receiving”. Relationships must be two way. If we go into a relationship systematically focused on what we’re going to get out of it, we’re setting ourselves up to fail from the start, we allow ourselves to equate the act of finding a partner as a matter of acquisition, a selfish calculation of costs and assets and what we can strive to benefit out of analysis. Theres no sense of sharing with the other person. Its as if being with someone, anyone really, is priority rather than cherishing the qualities of the relationship alone. Ask yourself honestly, where is the love there? We are more preoccupied with finding a partner than with nurturing the time of giving onself to the ideal investment of creating a warm, foundation-strong love and friendship.
3) So what is the solution?
Really, as obvious as it may sound, we should be affording our time with other people, getting to know them instead of looking. Our focus should primarily be on understanding, creating and nurturing friendships. We should be aiming to profoundly deepen and enhance those friendships, to evolve beyond the superficial shallowness phase. When time is spent developing this area, it is highly likely that, more often than not, positive relationships may result from this, therefore, we should view this as an additional positive benefit and not the primary focus.
For confidence building and getting the most enjoyment out of life, I highly recommend : Get A Life. For a limited time, I am offering Part 1 of Get A Life on audio, a $10 value, absolutely FREE. To claim your copy, just click the link below:
>>>> Get A Life Audio
The rate of people choosing singledom has risen and doubled over the past 20 years or so. This, not so surprizingly, has been coupled by the increasingly popular use of speed dating, online dating and dating communities.
The primary goal of dating is to find and meet a suitable partner, however, as much as we know this, there are several pitfalls that make up "the problem of dating ettiquette" are you too focused on the "idea" of finding your perfect mate?
1) Dating
Dating is often seen as high pressured. We are constantly sizing up the physical, personality flaws, compatibility, habits, responses, over what really is important, like friendship and getting to know them. We think, because we do it, other daters will be making their judgements too about us. We cant relax enough, always feeling we have to be competitive, losing touch if we stop.
2) Problems with focusing on finding a partner
Finding a suitable partner is something we shouldnt be seeking to find, rather, to be open to and allow it to occur. It is something we shouldnt be desiring to acquire. Alasdair Macintyre calls it “networks of giving and receiving”. Relationships must be two way. If we go into a relationship systematically focused on what we’re going to get out of it, we’re setting ourselves up to fail from the start, we allow ourselves to equate the act of finding a partner as a matter of acquisition, a selfish calculation of costs and assets and what we can strive to benefit out of analysis. Theres no sense of sharing with the other person. Its as if being with someone, anyone really, is priority rather than cherishing the qualities of the relationship alone. Ask yourself honestly, where is the love there? We are more preoccupied with finding a partner than with nurturing the time of giving onself to the ideal investment of creating a warm, foundation-strong love and friendship.
3) So what is the solution?
Really, as obvious as it may sound, we should be affording our time with other people, getting to know them instead of looking. Our focus should primarily be on understanding, creating and nurturing friendships. We should be aiming to profoundly deepen and enhance those friendships, to evolve beyond the superficial shallowness phase. When time is spent developing this area, it is highly likely that, more often than not, positive relationships may result from this, therefore, we should view this as an additional positive benefit and not the primary focus.
For confidence building and getting the most enjoyment out of life, I highly recommend : Get A Life. For a limited time, I am offering Part 1 of Get A Life on audio, a $10 value, absolutely FREE. To claim your copy, just click the link below:
>>>> Get A Life Audio
Tuesday, April 28, 2009
size queen reviewed
The size queen is the most daring sex toy purchase I have made. Solid, yet flexible, it really is heavy duty shit when it comes to femdom play or even that norty self indulgance. One word of warning: make sure you use a good quality lube for anal penetration, as it can be quite painful. *wink*
Product Description:
This is the Professional Grade Sex Toy for the not so faint of heart. This strap-on has a 10 hollow dong with ball sack and is 2.5 thick. The harness is equipped with rugged O`Rings and metal side rings to efficiently harness the monster dong that comfortably fits any size and is fully adjustable. Out with the dainty and frilly and IN with the heavy duty and rugged!
Product Description:
This is the Professional Grade Sex Toy for the not so faint of heart. This strap-on has a 10 hollow dong with ball sack and is 2.5 thick. The harness is equipped with rugged O`Rings and metal side rings to efficiently harness the monster dong that comfortably fits any size and is fully adjustable. Out with the dainty and frilly and IN with the heavy duty and rugged!
Monday, April 27, 2009
does your partner have roving eyes?
Looking. We all look. We have eyes. Sometimes roving eyes. Does your partner gawk at others in your company? Do they give lame explanations or just shrugg it off? Does this bother you? Should it bother you?
Well, newsflash: beauty is eyeball grabbing! Im as straight as they come and even I eyeball at such beauty!! However, I have to be honest to say it was never like that in the past. My ex was a constant eye rover, whether with me or not. I never use to speak up about it, but naturally was fuming inside. The reasons why I didnt were not too appear that it "got" to me, in the hope he would sense it didnt bother me, so it would cease. But it did, and it didnt. It gave me the feeling he saw me as someone he was comfortable with instead of someone he was attracted to as sexy. I would think that I wasnt attractive enough to him, that he wanted other women, and worst of all, that he was a potential cheater. This just strengthened when he use to get the shits if I dressed in low-cut tops or great fitting jeans and he'd say to me: dont wear that, other guys might check you out!! Even when a good-looking guy caught my eye and I so much stared, he would get touchy.
If men/women consciously refrain themselves from looking, they do so as not to evoke jealousy, tears and anger from their lovers. When you pester them about it, the trouble now is that whenever you go out together, your aware that theyre trying VERY hard NOT to look at others - and that is nearly as bad as when they do. By all means, if you want to control every lil thing your mate does, then turn your relationship into a police state, but be prepared for resentment, and more secretive behaviour as they now know what ticks you off.
Fast forward a few years, now in a new relationship, I now join in!! Its impossible to control roving eyes in both male or females unless you date a legally blind person or chain them to the house. Simple. You might be ogling coz spring is in the air and suddenly theres an influx of scantilly clad bronzed bodies on display. To witness a woman in a mini skirt after drab layers of winter garb is such a refreshing sight. Your man cant help notice and im sure you cant either. I love how my boy checks out women, I dont feel threatned, in fact I point them out to him and we both indulge. Same goes for men. We women cant help looking at gorgeous solid bodies, faces, buns, legs. Ok, maybe we are a lil better at discretion, but we still ogle.
Bottom line is theres a saying that goes: Dont worry where he/she gets their appetite from, just as long as they eat at home.
Dont miss your chance to grab your FREE copy of part 1 of Relationship Happiness on audio. If you've ever wondered why some people seem so lucky in love while others struggle to find an occasional date, Happily Ever After: Finding and Keeping the Right Person is for you. It answers those questions and provides the important insight you can use to improve your relationships
>>>> Relationship Happiness
Well, newsflash: beauty is eyeball grabbing! Im as straight as they come and even I eyeball at such beauty!! However, I have to be honest to say it was never like that in the past. My ex was a constant eye rover, whether with me or not. I never use to speak up about it, but naturally was fuming inside. The reasons why I didnt were not too appear that it "got" to me, in the hope he would sense it didnt bother me, so it would cease. But it did, and it didnt. It gave me the feeling he saw me as someone he was comfortable with instead of someone he was attracted to as sexy. I would think that I wasnt attractive enough to him, that he wanted other women, and worst of all, that he was a potential cheater. This just strengthened when he use to get the shits if I dressed in low-cut tops or great fitting jeans and he'd say to me: dont wear that, other guys might check you out!! Even when a good-looking guy caught my eye and I so much stared, he would get touchy.
If men/women consciously refrain themselves from looking, they do so as not to evoke jealousy, tears and anger from their lovers. When you pester them about it, the trouble now is that whenever you go out together, your aware that theyre trying VERY hard NOT to look at others - and that is nearly as bad as when they do. By all means, if you want to control every lil thing your mate does, then turn your relationship into a police state, but be prepared for resentment, and more secretive behaviour as they now know what ticks you off.
Fast forward a few years, now in a new relationship, I now join in!! Its impossible to control roving eyes in both male or females unless you date a legally blind person or chain them to the house. Simple. You might be ogling coz spring is in the air and suddenly theres an influx of scantilly clad bronzed bodies on display. To witness a woman in a mini skirt after drab layers of winter garb is such a refreshing sight. Your man cant help notice and im sure you cant either. I love how my boy checks out women, I dont feel threatned, in fact I point them out to him and we both indulge. Same goes for men. We women cant help looking at gorgeous solid bodies, faces, buns, legs. Ok, maybe we are a lil better at discretion, but we still ogle.
Bottom line is theres a saying that goes: Dont worry where he/she gets their appetite from, just as long as they eat at home.
Dont miss your chance to grab your FREE copy of part 1 of Relationship Happiness on audio. If you've ever wondered why some people seem so lucky in love while others struggle to find an occasional date, Happily Ever After: Finding and Keeping the Right Person is for you. It answers those questions and provides the important insight you can use to improve your relationships
>>>> Relationship Happiness
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